Very good post, after Piers Morgan's interview with Jim Davidson I think he probably has been unfairly potrayed in the media. addictive personalities must encompass a huge numbers of people. Wonder if we should remove more the temptation of drugs/alcohol some more away from the young? Wonder how we were before these things were available.
While I certainly can't dismiss what to me seems like a very real personal disposition to become easily addicted to both substances and behaviours, I can also easily agree that low self-esteem is likely to be at least a part of the issue. I used to hate parties because I was just so lacking in confidence - until I discovered alcohol. Fast forward twenty blurry, hyper-social years and I am now on the wagon, only to discover that despite my well practiced social bluff, I now routinely avoid social contact because I find it painful without the "social lubrication". Anyway, great article :-)
Bottlerocket
· 1 year ago
Great post. "Addictive Personality" is basically a description of what we see...some people do bad things in compulsive ways that defy easy explanation. However, we do know that some of these so called addictive behaviors stem from either excessive stimulus seeking tendencies..."I want to do it so bad, I just can help myself..." or excessive, fearful, stimulus avoiding tendencies..."I need to stop feeling bad, and this is the best way I can think of right now." Ultimately, both groups need our help and compassion.
Amanda Ballenger, MA
· 1 year ago
@ Nassorn: "Do you have any reseach on how to build up self esteem?"
Unfortunately, a lot of research I've read in this area says that you can bolster false self-esteem, but that genuine self-esteem is something that the individual has to develop on his or her own. Perhaps cognitive-behavioral therapy might be useful in developing genuine self-esteem, but the typical, non-clinical interventions you come across (such as friends telling you how much you rock) only serve to increase artificial self-esteem.
The difference between genuine and artificial self-esteem is that genuine self-esteem is stable and improves emotional resiliency, while artificial self-esteem is fragile and tends to lead to hostility in response to perceived self-esteem threats. It's the difference between honestly believing that you're an OK person, and being narcissistic.
On that note, here are the citations for a few articles I found on the subject - you should be able to find them at your local college library (hopefully my text formatting will work out):
Baumeister, R. F., Campbell, J, D., Krueger, J. I., Vohs, K. D., DuBois, D. L., & Tevendale, H. D. (2007). Issue 5: Applying Social Psychology: Are Self-Esteem Programs Misguided? [i]Taking sides: Clashing views in social psychology, 2nd ed.[/i] J. A. Nier, Ed. New York, NY, US: McGraw-Hill, 92-115.
Gailliot, M. T., & Baumeister, R. F. (2007). Self-esteem, belongingness, and worldview validation: Does belongingness exert a unique influence upon self-esteem? [i]Journal of Research in Personality, 41[/i](2), 327-345.
There's a huge body of literature on this subject. If you go to your local college's library and log into the PsychArticles or PsychINFO databases do a search for "self-esteem improvement" and "self-esteem improvement AND Baumeister" with Baumeister in the author field. You'll find tons of relevant info. Many of the results will have linked full-text articles you can download/print.
Jimguru
· 1 year ago
A disease concept in addiction (including addictive personality ) predicts loss of control and passivity over addictions. Addicted people with self-efficacy and internal attribution are proven by research to have better outcomes than those believing they have a disease (e.g. AA ) or predisposition to addiction. Circumstances will have an effect but belief in self-efficacy will override them. Believe in yourself and keep learning from your mistakes to overcome addiction.
Joe Pike
· 1 year ago
"I have no desire to dig into the pasts of Colin Farrell or Jim Davidson to see if they suffered low self esteem"
That means, I did do the research, however it did not fit into my hypothesis.
Nassorn
· 1 year ago
Amanda,
Thank you very much for your kindly respond with expand to value information.
I've ever been interviewed by graduate student for her thesis in social behaviors. With 2 hours personal interview with set of questions and recording our conversation, she let me know after submit her thesis that her professor evaluate that I am a kind of person who has high self esteem. I am a bit amazing.
Then I realized that because of self esteem in me, I can overcome most of hard times I faced in my life and now I live my life with happiness. More positive mind toward people and situations, less anger, more sharing, more smile, laughing like a child than I was at young.
That 's why I think building GENUINE self esteem should help release social problem.
Joe - No, I really didn't bother looking into the background of Colin Farrell nor Jim Davidson. Life's too short! I included them simply to illustrate the widespread use of "addictive personality" as a label.
David
· 1 year ago
Thank you all for your great comments. Seamus - I can empathize, using alcohol to "enjoy" social occasions was a well established habit of mine. Whether its my age or the fact I seem to rarely find myself in social situations where alcohol is available, but seem to have moved on without consciously changing.
Seamus Anthony
· 1 year ago
Try living in Australia - every day is a social situation where alcohol is available ;-)
Glen
· 1 year ago
Sigmund Freud noted that people who have reached a state of being "pathologically unhappy with themselves", ultimately have a good reason to be. On the same note Mark Twain stated that "By trying we can easily learn to endure adversity. Another man's, I mean.", which in so far as I am able to see is how anybody who does not suffer from the affliction or compulsion of addiction is able to sit on the fence and make such cruel statements. If it doesn't affect me it isn't my problem, really isn't adequate or fair to anyone except to note that indivisible thing we know to be ego.
Personality disorders can reach as far as obsessing over anything, chemical, material, spiritual, maternal, physical, meta-physical, emotional and more. With this in mind how can such a statement hold any basis for any more than chatter? Mindless or otherwise it is unfair and discouraging for any sentient being to be told that it is simply "all in your head".
All that we are an will ever be is "in our heads and hearts". To be heartless for the point of scratching ones head is little more than mindless masturbation.
Ned
· 1 year ago
"Whilst the term “addictive personality” may be helpful to explain away an addiction, it doesn’t have any real meaning or basis in science. There is some evidence that there is a genetic predisposition to develop addictions and some personality disorders can make someone more prone to compulsive behavior."
The second sentence disproves the first. If there is evidence that a person has genetic predisposition to addiction, then we would say he has a addictive personality.
I don't think you entirely comprehend the problem. It isn't difficult to quit an addiction through one's own will power. The difficulty is remaining sober despite one's own best efforts. What is required is a personality change so significant that relapse becomes near impossible. You can't change your personality until you understand that a change is required. Hence, the admission of having an addictive personality.
Do some people use that admission as an excuse to stay in addiction? Sure. Did they need an excuse? Not really. There is, however, a difference between a person who is drinking/using with or without that awareness. The latter has no way out: they are stuck in their predisposition. The former knows there is a way out, but chooses not to take it.
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Helen
· 1 year ago
I would be very interested in your take on a person (male) who freely admitted he saw himself as a victim due to abuse (physical) as a youth by a parent and the failure of 3 long term relationships whilst I was abused mentally, physically, and sexually as a child by a parent and had had two marriages end due to the controlling attitude of both husbands I still consider myself a survivor .We had a relationship but within that relationship he never once used my given name unless he was introducing me to someone. He broke it off 5 weeks after making a big deal out of committing to the relationship and while still in the relationship thought it was quite ok to spend the night at another woman's house. My take on it was that he was punishing women (I was not the 1st) for the other failures in his life and that if he called me by my name I became a real person with feelings that could be hurt, We met online and for weeks he called me by my screen name.At no time did he ever look at his own actions that caused or had effect on past relationships.
Amanda Ballenger, MA
· 1 year ago
@ Glen:
Please correct me if my interpretation of your post is incorrect. You mention Sigmund Freud and Mark Twain, and use the term "on the fence" and say that their attitudes are "... how anybody who does not suffer from the affliction or compulsion of addiction is able...to make such cruel statements."
Sigmund Freud was a profound addict. Regarding his own behavior using his own theory we can say that he was fixated in the oral and anal stage. He smoked 20 cigars a day for more than 50 years (and found it impossible to work without them). Ultimately he had to have his jaw removed due to cancer, but he still smoked! And he was compulsive (anal fixation) - he followed the same ritualized schedule pretty much every day. [From Siegler, R., DeLoache, J., & Eisenberg, N. (2006). How children develop, 2nd ed. New York, NY: Worth Publishers, p. 339.]
"To cease smoking is the easiest thing I ever did. I ought to know because I did it a thousand times." ~ Mark Twain Although Mark Twain took a rather cavalier attitude toward his addiction, he was in fact an addict. Who knows how he really felt about his niccotine addiction? He was a humorist, and tended to treat most subjects in a light-handed manner.
I agree that Freud and Twain's comments are insensitive, and can be especially hurtful to someone coping with an addiction [I'm not making assumptions about you, Glen, I'm speaking generally here :) ]. However, we cannot assume that just because someone speaks callously they do not understand what an addiction is like. In fact, to go back to Freud, it's possible that the people who suffer the most are going to be the ones who also speak the cruelest words. Reaction formation, the defense mechanism in which anxiety-producing thoughts or feelings are replaced with their exact opposites, can often lead people who should actually be empathetic to turn into ripe bastards.
David
· 1 year ago
Ned - my argument is that whilst there is a genetic disposition for, say, alcohol in the way that there is for schizophrenia or cancer, thats different to someone having personality traits that make them prone to developing any addiction. My other issue was the tendency for people to self diagnose "addictive personality" as a way of explaining away something that they perceive have no control over. I accept this argument isn't watertight and that genetic factors may indeed lead to anxiety or depression, which could make someone more prone to using a potentially addictive behavior to self medicate.
maia berens
· 1 year ago
I would say that everyone with an "addictive personality" really does have low self-esteem. When a person regards themselves highly they only have desires to treat themselves well, they do what is healthy for them. There is a huge difference between an over inflated ego that develops when addictions are rampant and self esteem.
when someone has low self-esteem and self-worth they cope by getting instant fixes to make themselves feel good; whether its with drugs, alcohol, impulse shopping, gambling etc. This can be a vicious cycle as the feelings from these behaviors are fleeting and need to repeated. There is no true fulfillment there and will lead to depression. When someone says they have an addictive personality, they are shifting away their responsibility and to no longer be accountable for their behavior. This definitely doesn’t help to effectively deal with the addiction. By addressing the connection with low self esteem and addiction, then people can work to find a solution for the root cause.
Daitondimeny
· 1 year ago
Personality disorders can reach as far as obsessing over anything, chemical, material, spiritual, maternal, physical, meta-physical, emotional and more. With this in mind how can such a statement hold any basis for any more than chatter? Mindless or otherwise it is unfair and discouraging for any sentient being to be told that it is simply “all in your head”.
I think we should look at the contents of our hearts dispassionately, and resolve to ignore the bad or evil parts. Just don't give them your attention.
I certainaly wouldn't recommend picking over your faults as you would at a scab. I think it just makes them worse.
If my problems can seem less after a good night's sleep, a good meal and a brisk walk, it suggests I can overcome them easily.
RESIST the urge to indulge yourself. Get out of the house, and do works of charity for strangers.
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It seem that low self esteem is related to behaviors that cause social problem widely.
Do you have any reseach on how to build up self esteem?
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Unfortunately, a lot of research I've read in this area says that you can bolster false self-esteem, but that genuine self-esteem is something that the individual has to develop on his or her own. Perhaps cognitive-behavioral therapy might be useful in developing genuine self-esteem, but the typical, non-clinical interventions you come across (such as friends telling you how much you rock) only serve to increase artificial self-esteem.
The difference between genuine and artificial self-esteem is that genuine self-esteem is stable and improves emotional resiliency, while artificial self-esteem is fragile and tends to lead to hostility in response to perceived self-esteem threats. It's the difference between honestly believing that you're an OK person, and being narcissistic.
On that note, here are the citations for a few articles I found on the subject - you should be able to find them at your local college library (hopefully my text formatting will work out):
Baumeister, R. F., Campbell, J, D., Krueger, J. I., Vohs, K. D., DuBois, D. L., & Tevendale, H. D. (2007). Issue 5: Applying Social Psychology: Are Self-Esteem Programs Misguided? [i]Taking sides: Clashing views in social psychology, 2nd ed.[/i] J. A. Nier, Ed. New York, NY, US: McGraw-Hill, 92-115.
Gailliot, M. T., & Baumeister, R. F. (2007). Self-esteem, belongingness, and worldview validation: Does belongingness exert a unique influence upon self-esteem? [i]Journal of Research in Personality, 41[/i](2), 327-345.
There's a huge body of literature on this subject. If you go to your local college's library and log into the PsychArticles or PsychINFO databases do a search for "self-esteem improvement" and "self-esteem improvement AND Baumeister" with Baumeister in the author field. You'll find tons of relevant info. Many of the results will have linked full-text articles you can download/print.
That means, I did do the research, however it did not fit into my hypothesis.
Thank you very much for your kindly respond with expand to value information.
Seamus - I can empathize, using alcohol to "enjoy" social occasions was a well established habit of mine. Whether its my age or the fact I seem to rarely find myself in social situations where alcohol is available, but seem to have moved on without consciously changing.
Personality disorders can reach as far as obsessing over anything, chemical, material, spiritual, maternal, physical, meta-physical, emotional and more. With this in mind how can such a statement hold any basis for any more than chatter? Mindless or otherwise it is unfair and discouraging for any sentient being to be told that it is simply "all in your head".
All that we are an will ever be is "in our heads and hearts". To be heartless for the point of scratching ones head is little more than mindless masturbation.
The second sentence disproves the first. If there is evidence that a person has genetic predisposition to addiction, then we would say he has a addictive personality.
I don't think you entirely comprehend the problem. It isn't difficult to quit an addiction through one's own will power. The difficulty is remaining sober despite one's own best efforts. What is required is a personality change so significant that relapse becomes near impossible. You can't change your personality until you understand that a change is required. Hence, the admission of having an addictive personality.
Do some people use that admission as an excuse to stay in addiction? Sure. Did they need an excuse? Not really. There is, however, a difference between a person who is drinking/using with or without that awareness. The latter has no way out: they are stuck in their predisposition. The former knows there is a way out, but chooses not to take it.
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My take on it was that he was punishing women (I was not the 1st) for the other failures in his life and that if he called me by my name I became a real person with feelings that could be hurt, We met online and for weeks he called me by my screen name.At no time did he ever look at his own actions that caused or had effect on past relationships.
Please correct me if my interpretation of your post is incorrect. You mention Sigmund Freud and Mark Twain, and use the term "on the fence" and say that their attitudes are "... how anybody who does not suffer from the affliction or compulsion of addiction is able...to make such cruel statements."
Sigmund Freud was a profound addict. Regarding his own behavior using his own theory we can say that he was fixated in the oral and anal stage. He smoked 20 cigars a day for more than 50 years (and found it impossible to work without them). Ultimately he had to have his jaw removed due to cancer, but he still smoked! And he was compulsive (anal fixation) - he followed the same ritualized schedule pretty much every day.
[From Siegler, R., DeLoache, J., & Eisenberg, N. (2006). How children develop, 2nd ed. New York, NY: Worth Publishers, p. 339.]
"To cease smoking is the easiest thing I ever did. I ought to know because I did it a thousand times." ~ Mark Twain
Although Mark Twain took a rather cavalier attitude toward his addiction, he was in fact an addict. Who knows how he really felt about his niccotine addiction? He was a humorist, and tended to treat most subjects in a light-handed manner.
I agree that Freud and Twain's comments are insensitive, and can be especially hurtful to someone coping with an addiction [I'm not making assumptions about you, Glen, I'm speaking generally here :) ]. However, we cannot assume that just because someone speaks callously they do not understand what an addiction is like. In fact, to go back to Freud, it's possible that the people who suffer the most are going to be the ones who also speak the cruelest words. Reaction formation, the defense mechanism in which anxiety-producing thoughts or feelings are replaced with their exact opposites, can often lead people who should actually be empathetic to turn into ripe bastards.
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I certainaly wouldn't recommend picking over your faults as you would at a scab. I think it just makes them worse.
If my problems can seem less after a good night's sleep, a good meal and a brisk walk, it suggests I can overcome them easily.
RESIST the urge to indulge yourself. Get out of the house, and do works of charity for strangers.